5 Secrets of a Successful Relationship
We call them the secrets of successful relationships because one of the strengths of a good relationship is that so much of what goes on between the couple is intimate and private. However, we can reveal that certain factors are considered to be particularly important for relationships across age groups and cultures, with one fundamental factor being the key.
Compatibility is the basis for all relationship success. Certain relationship breakdowns occur for dramatic reasons, but more often the reason for relationship breakdown is the sad lament ‘we just weren’t compatible’. So what is compatibility?
Compatibility is a combination of factors including physical chemistry, friendship and ability to attend to the practical issues of a relationship. You may think that only the first aspect sounds exciting, but as a relationship develops the other aspects of compatibility gain importance and become a deep and enduring source of satisfaction for the successful couple.
The couple who laughs together stays together, making humour an essential secret of serious relationships. The ability to see the lighter and brighter side of life, and to laugh off minor relationship irritations, is a vital part of a successful relationship. Laughter too helps a relationship to succeed as it is an important part of physical and mental well-being. Shared laughter binds people together, increasing happiness and intimacy. Laughter stimulates the brain, releasing feel-good chemicals that can stimulate desire; it can also boost the heart, making laughter a factor in long and successful relationships.
Kindness is what helps us get though life. The kindness of strangers can give us an unexpected mental boost. The consistent kindness of a loved one can provide the safety and security we need to go out and achieve in the world, which in turn helps us to share yet more kindness with those around us. Kindness just keeps growing, along with our relationship.
Trust is the ability to believe in someone. It is the opposite of jealousy and possessiveness. The ability to trust comes from within us, and is rooted in our ability to love ourselves. If you are confident in yourself then you can trust your ability to find the perfect mate for you.
This is related to trust, and includes the ability to give and take in a relationship. Sometimes cultural factors and family demands can challenge our belief in one another or our practical compatibility. Religion can sometimes be a subject that is not up for negotiation, so a non-believer may find the right person for them based on their interests instead of someone who is part of a certain religion. Remember, compatibility is the key that locks relationships together!